Seperation Anxiety - Mine
I wrote a while ago about my daugther’s grandparents wanting to take her to Florida for a week in a few months. I think I have decided not to take them up on their offer, although I appreciate it and will definately let her go when she’s older. Anyway, we let Peanut go on an overnight last week to see how she’d be without us. I thought she might need her mommy at some point and was prepared to pick her up in the middle of the night.
Nope. I don’t think she missed me one bit! She usually spends Fridays with her grandmother and aunt (I am VERY lucky!), so they just kept her for the night too. I stopped by at around seven to say goodnight. Now, if I really thought she’d get sad seeing me and then having me leave, I wouldn’t have done that. I knew she’d be ok with it and I missed her! I had to give her a hug and a kiss for the night. Anyway, I went there, and she was just as happy as could be. Running around and having fun. She barely noticed when I left.
I’m glad she was fine with it, really I am. It’s good to know so we can drop her there and not have to worry when we go to the hospital for the new baby. She can just stay with them as long as she needs to. And she can go on littler trips with them and be fine.
That’s great. She’s so secure. That’s what people try to tell me anyway. A little sadness would have been good for my ego - she’s two. She should miss me! She had a great time with her grandparents, slept great all night, and didn’t want to come home the next day. It’s a little sad for me that she’s so independent! I know that’s the goal, and I know it makes my life easier to have an independent kid, but I guess I equate clinginess with love sometimes. Not good! I know she loves us. I feel like I’m trying to convince myself here. It does make me feel good when she gives me a random hug and says, “I need you, Mommy.” She does this when she’s tired or feeling a little lonely. I’m trying to learn how to enjoy these little things before she stops doing them altogether.
For now, I can be assured that she feels secure with her father and me. She’s not afraid to try new things or go to new places, which is something I can learn from her. But she’s not going to Florida. I’m not ready for that yet.
May 24th, 2008 at 2:34 am
Seperation anxiety is very tough, that’s for sure. I had bad seperation anxiety from my mother in elementary school. I could only imagine how tough it would be dealing with it now. Luckily there are natural ways to calm the symptoms of anxiety, like with fish oil supplements. You can read more about naturally treating your anxiety over at the Dietary Supplement Information Bureau page on anxiety. We are a not-for-profit, non-commercial site dedicated to providing accurate, science-based information on dietary supplements.
Thanks,
Derek
Dietary Supplement Information Bureau
May 26th, 2008 at 3:20 pm
Hey you - she’ll be more “insecure” as she gets older…trust me
May 27th, 2008 at 9:38 am
So jealous. I love my daughters hugs and snuggles, but it would be really awesome to leave her with my sister-in-law (and adorable niece) for the night. Especially since we’re expecting in the next few weeks also.
May 28th, 2008 at 8:19 am
Congratulations on the upcoming newest member of your family, Jasi. I hope your daugther adjusts well - and can stay with your sister-in-law. It’s a huge relief knowing you can leave them with someone you trust and know they’ll be fine. Does she spend time with them on her own?